Going through a rough patch during a marriage is an all too common occurrence for any couple. For some, this is just a slight bump in the grand scheme of things, but it’s the beginning of the end of their marriage for others.
Divorce isn’t an easy choice to make, but it can be one of the best decisions for a couple and their individual happiness in the future. If you are unsure whether it’s time to fight for your marriage or let it go, ask yourself these three questions first.
Are You Pretending to Be Someone You’re Not?
If you start to find yourself hiding who you are for fear that your spouse will not accept you, your marriage will suffer. It’s nearly impossible to be in a fulfilling relationship with someone that you cannot be truly comfortable with. Filtering your beliefs or actions away from your spouse shows a lack of self-respect for your own opinions, which isn’t an easy thing to fix.
Are You and Your Spouse a Team?
When couples get married, they dedicate their lives to each other, which means coming together for a common goal. It takes a lot of work from both parties to make a marriage successful. Both partners need to be willing to do what it takes to resolve issues because it’s what is going to be best for their entire relationship. When you or your spouse stop thinking about your lives in terms of “we” and begin to refer to “I,” it’s a sign that things may be going downhill.
Would I be Happier Without my Spouse in My Life?
Take a long hard look at your life right now and what you want in the future. Are your values currently being upheld? Does your spouse listen to you? Where do you see yourself in five years? Are you happy? Do you see you and your spouse still together in the future?
Ask yourself these questions to really get an idea of what you need in your life in order to be the best version of yourself. If you see your spouse being there through thick and then, consider looking into marriage counseling to start tackling your issues before they become more serious. However, if you can’t picture your spouse being a part of those plans, it’s time to think about your options for moving forward.
If you are considering getting a divorce and have questions about the legal process, The Law Offices of Jonny Kousa, P.L. is here for you. Call our skilled South Florida divorce lawyer at (954) 626-8071 to discuss your case today.